I tend to hurt people whom I love and push them away. Why do I do so? I am scared of love now.

Question - Gurudev, I tend to hurt people whom I love and push them away. Why do I do so? I am scared of love now.

Gurudev Sri Sri - Listen, these patterns will change, don't be scared. If you love somebody, serve them. Don't latch on to them, don't police them. Be centered. You go and tell someone, love you, I love you, I love you'. They say, 'Yes, okay' But then what will they do? They don't know how to respond, so they feel like running away from there. We should not express our love too much. If you express your love too much, the person to whom you express doesn't know how to handle it. If they are enlightened and centered, they can smile and they can take it. If they are not enlightened, they don't know how to handle the love. Like people don't know how to handle anger and hatred, they also don't know how to handle love. This is the reason why many times people run away. So, you should be very measured in your expression of love. Got it? See in the west, they express love too much. And in the east, they don't express love at all. So it should be somewhere in the middle. You can't bury a seed deep in the soil, it will never sprout. In the same way, you can't keep the seed on top of the soil, it won't sprout there either. You should take a little mud and sow the seed close to the surface, then it sprouts. Love is also the same. Don't express it too much and be centered. Always remember that you are love.