Who loves you unconditionally is rare - one in a million

Chapter 8 - The Veils Of Misery 

Day 63

Ignorance is considering that which is changing to be non-changing. We try to control other’s mind. This is not possible. Someone may have loved you yesterday. But, they need not love you today or tomorrow. They would not know this themselves. 

You expect an enlightened behavior from everybody around you and when you do not get it, you become unhappy. You may not be behaving in an enlightened way, but you expect everyone around you to be enlightened and have unconditional love for you. 

A person who loves you unconditionally is rare - one in a million. But you expect it from everybody around you. This expectation makes you unhappy. This is what everybody is doing, consciously or unconsciously. Sometimes, they may not even know what they are expecting. 

But their expectation is something very big. They are seeking God in everybody. They are seeking God without understanding that God could behave in any manner that He wants. They are looking for a saintly God in everybody around them. Your concept of how things should be makes you miserable.

Asmita is oneness of our intellect and our self. Have you noticed that some people, stubbornly, stick to their opinion despite the facts that being contrary to it? They will argue meaninglessly. This happens because they are so stuck in themselves, in their intellect and thoughts, which they consider as their own. 

Asmita is the inability to see the Self and the buddhi or the intellect and the power of the organs of perception as separate entities. Raga is craving. Craving arises because of a pleasant experience and it makes you miserable. Patanjali had said that there were only five sources of misery.

Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankarji 

PATANJALI YOGA SUTRAS